All We Need Is

Love! 

Remember the old Beatles tune “All you need is love”?

I really think they were on to something!

No what I am not say just be kumbaya and lackadaisical about your life but, ask yourself…What is the first thing you want to do when you get good news, succeed at something, have a great idea etc? You want to share it with someone you love!

This is what I am talking about! Love and connection is part of the human needs that I will teach you later on today during the show!

Have you ever heard of the failure to thrive phenomenon? This is where a newborn baby will not live without love and affection. This is a sad reality but true.

So what is this thing called love?  Is it a physiological or psychological response? Yes! It is both. It is emotion but also a chemical response in the body!

Love and connection are part of the six human needs a founded by Tony Robbins years ago. Now while I totally subscribe to Tony’s iteration of the six human needs I have found that there may be a 7th need that has until now yet to be discovered! Want to know it? Stick around till the end then!

So this six human needs, what are they? Glad you asked, here you go:

1. Certainty is the need to have a certain level of belief that there is something static that you can rely on being fail safe.  Example would be feeling certain that you have enough left after you pay the rent to eat!
2. Uncertainty is the need to not get bored. If you knew everything about when, how and there was no uncertainty you would be stark raving bored!
3. Love and connection is what we are talking about today. We all need some level of love in life or some settle for connection. This may not be at the level you desire, which can be fixed but without any is where you end up with people doing the unmentionable!
4. Significance is also necessary, you may say you don’t need this but you do! Everyone must have some feeling that they matter in some small or large way, preferably large! 
5. Growth is a next level need and this is where you really begin to rise up and began to be better, go for better and that usually leads to….
6. Contribution is the best of the best because you get to take all the gifts of the first 5 and not only pass them along but actually multiply them! Example for you…Remember as a kid Christmas (or whatever you may celebrate) it was all about us. What we are going to get was the focus. Then something happens, we become parents and the greatest joy is giving to your children and loved ones. Now that is not to say that you still don’t enjoy receiving but just that the greatest pleasure is in giving!

Pretty awesome stuff here, huh? Wait! Coach you said there was a 7th and I want it! Well Ok then, glad you demanded!

1. This is the missing link for all time…balance!  Yes balance of all 6 needs.  Think about it, if one is way out of whack the others will suffer. For example if you have so much uncertainty and little to no certainty this could result in chronic fear, the reverse of way to much certainty with no excitement would lead to a very dull and boring life. Think about balance this way..You are going on a roller coaster and that is scary enough to satisfy your need for uncertainty but you are certain that you probably won’t die on it!

Back to love!

Would it be safe to say that if we all found more ways to feel love and show more love and compassion that we would have a better life, better relationships and certainly a better world?

That is todays lesson, now here is your homework…

This week keep a mini journal about what makes you feel loved. List out the people you love and why. Create two ways that you can show love first to the people you already love and then ways you could show love for those that you can honestly say you don’t even really like but make a way to show love in some sort of way to them too. They may not send it back but that is not the point. The point is that I have heard it put that the best way to feel love is to give love. This whole process is for YOU and in the process others will received some great feelings of love too!

Like I said at the start of today this is not some kumbaya rather some real tools you can use to understand your needs especially love and a great place to start creating a better world!

Wednesday we are going to follow up on today’s love lessons so make sure to tune in live at 7AM and by all means please submit questions!

My friends this is not always going to be an easy journey but I can’t stress enough that you get one life, this is not a rehearsal for the next go round!  Live you life today like it matters because it does and it is the only one you get! 

With that all said make sure to watch the video, take action today, get some coaching and step up to the life you desire and deserve!

Live with faith, energy, passion and always live your dreams!

-Coach Lew